The start of the new year is a time for resolutions and fresh starts. Do you have a habit you want to drop or one you’d like to develop? Whether you are trying to adopt a new one or drop an old one, change is hard. Good intentions aren’t enough. It helps to have people supporting you.
Funny thing is, sometimes, just when you need support the most, you get the exact opposite. Your declaration of good intentions may be met with an eye roll, a sigh or a skeptical, “right….” even from people who love you!
Whether we realize it or not, most of us have been on both ends of this phenomenon. The eye roll, sigh or sarcastic remark is almost involuntary. Almost.
Let’s resolve to give resolvers the support they need to navigate change. It boils down to self-awareness. A moment exists between what someone says and our reaction to it. In that moment we have an opportunity to choose our response. If we want to help the people we care about as they navigate their way through dropping bad habits and developing new, healthier ones, we need to recognize and use that moment to support them. We’d be better friends and partners if rather than a disbelieving, “right…” we said, “That’s great!” “Good for you!” “How can I help?”
As for me, I have a bad habit of cutting people off before they finish what they are saying. This year I’m resolving to be more self-aware. When I find myself starting to interrupt, I’m going to back off and listen.
Hey, don’t roll your eyes at me!